I was recently listening to Just Break Up podcast (Ep.4) with Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell. They were talking about toxic relationships and I couldn’t quite figure out why it was hitting me so hard. Until I tweeted at Sierra directly to ask if it also applied to non-romantic relationships. Her answer, unsurprisingly, was that it does.
All of the sudden, it was like all of the pieces that had seemed random came together to form a beautiful picture.
The people who my friends keep reminding me I don’t need in my life, the ones that drain my energy, that cause me to lose any sense of self…they’re toxic. It doesn’t have to be a significant other. It can be someone that I deeply care about. But it isn’t healthy and it isn’t okay.
My therapist declared this upcoming year (year 2 of my sobriety) as: The Year of Radical Boundary Setting. The year where I recognize my worth and my needs. Where I learn that it’s okay to cut people out of my life. Where self-preservation and self-compassion come to the forefront.
Goal number one? Don’t invite people who have destroyed me back into my life. Allow myself to grieve the loss those friendships. Step forward into the future knowing that it will be okay.
I will be okay.